Insecurity.
âŚ.perhaps the one experience that unites the entire human race. If youâve taken a breath on planet earth, youâve probably felt insecure at one time or another.
Or maybe you feel insecure at all times.
The thing about feeling insecure is we donât talk about it enough. Itâs sort of everyoneâs embarrassing little secret.
And by keeping it in the dark, we donât really ever deal with it. Which is such a shame because it isnât Godâs will for anyone to feel insecure. When we dwell in a place of insecurity, we arenât living in the truth of what God says about who we are.
Insecurity causes us to push too hard at certain times, and remain too passive at others. We hide our true selves from others, which only perpetuates the problem in the first place. It ends up being a vicious cycle.
The first step to dealing with anything is identifying the problem. Here are 3 signs you might be an insecure person:
- You’re intimidated by others.
Envy and jealousy are the constant companions of insecurity. If you find yourself frequently feeling envious of others, itâs a huge indicator that youâre battling insecurity.
Are you comfortable drawing attention to the success of someone else? Do you pay compliments easily, or do they get stuck in your throat? The next time youâre around someone who has experienced success in their life, do some introspection. Are you able to celebrate that success with them, or not? The Bible says that we are to, âRejoice with those who rejoice and mourn with those who mourn.â -Romans 12:15
- You find your worth in your accomplishments.
So, for those of you who are achievers, this one will be hard.
And I get it, having great results on the job or at school is a reflection on your hard work and skill. Itâs all too easy to get caught up in that sort of thing.
But when youâre defined by results, it can be extremely problematic.
Of course, this line of thinking works fine when things are going well. But when you donât get the promotion, hit your quota, or get a passing grade, things fall apart quickly.
At the root of this is really a question of identity. Who are you? Are you the sum total of your accomplishments? Or are you a precious child of God who has been chosen and loved unconditionally?
And hereâs the harsh reality: so much of what youâre trying to achieve are circumstances beyond your control. Hard work and skill donât always result in you achieving your goals. And then what? If you want to feel perpetually insecure, define yourself by your results.
- Youâre an imitator, not an innovator
Insecurity squashes creativity every time. If youâre swimming in a sea of self-doubt, it propels you back to your high school years where you were too scared to try a new look, or speak out when you disagreed with something. Your insecurities as a teenager forced you into a little box where you would just figure out what the cool kids were doing and copy that.
But thatâs no way to live!
The problem with that is the world needs you. God made you with your unique set of characteristics because he wanted the world to be blessed by all you bring to the table.
Itâs fine to learn from others who are innovating in their field of expertise, but if you never lead the way with your own thoughts and ideas, insecurity could be holding you back.
Be you. Everyone else is taken.
Ok so now what? Perhaps, like me, youâre ready to acknowledge that insecurity is a problem for you. What are your next steps?
I want you to tell someone.
Thatâs right.
Pull back the curtain and admit to a trusted friend, mentor, or pastor that your insecurity is keeping you from living Godâs plan for your life. Allow them to speak truth into your places of doubt and shame.
And I want you to keep the conversation going. It wonât be a âone and doneâ solution. It will be a process where youâll experience ebbs and flows of growth.
But with consistent effort and intentionality, over time youâll get to a place where your insecurity no longer has the last word.
Truth will have the last word.Â
And the truth is, you are the beloved of God.
Thank you…..love your messages …
I do not say it nearly as often as I voice it silently: Your teachings are relevant, to the point and encouraging. Thank you. Keep on keeping on.