The Real Reasons We’re All Lonely

“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.”
-Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

Loneliness is a growing epidemic in our society.

A recent study found that over half of Americans report feeling lonely on a regular basis (Cigna, 2020). As Christians, it’s important to understand the root of this issue and how we can respond to it in a way that reflects God’s love and compassion.

 

Here are three reasons why people are so lonely:

 

• The breakdown of community: In our modern world, it’s easy to become disconnected from our neighbors and communities. People move frequently, work long hours, and often prioritize individualism over community. This can lead to a lack of meaningful connections and a sense of isolation.

One hundred years ago, people would sit outside on the front porch on a summer evening. Neighbors would visit with each other and have a glass of lemonade, forming friendships and genuine connections. Now, we all retreat indoors with our TVs/cell phones/tablets/gaming systems.

Do you even remember the last time you sat outside?

• The rise of technology: While on some level technology has made it easier to connect with others, it has also perpetuated a way of life that is actually very isolating.

In addition, it has created a culture of comparison and isolation. People can feel disconnected from others when they see their friends and acquaintances living seemingly perfect lives online.

Finally, social media often replaces in-person interactions, leading to a lack of meaningful connections.

• The stigma around mental health: Mental health issues such as depression and anxiety can be incredibly isolating. Unfortunately, there is still a stigma around mental health that can prevent people from seeking help and support.

If you’re feeling depressed or anxious (or both), it’s more important than ever that you’re in a supportive community that will help get you through this difficult time. Now is not the time to isolate yourself! If you’re not in a church, find one and start going. If you’re in church but not in a small group, take that step and join a group that will support you with prayer and care.

Discussion Questions:

1. How can you better prioritize community and connection in your own life?
2. How can you help those who are struggling with loneliness feel supported and loved?

As Christians, we have a unique opportunity to respond to loneliness in a way that reflects God’s love and compassion. We can combat loneliness by prioritizing community, speaking truth into people’s lives, and providing support for mental health.

Let’s remember that God promises to set the lonely in families and that we can be a part of that for those who are struggling with loneliness.