3 Things that are Killing Your Marriage

Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

Ephesians 4:31-32 (NIV)


Hey there, married friends! Let’s have an honest conversation about the challenges we face in our marriages. We all want our marriages to thrive, but sometimes there are things that sneak in and wreak havoc on our relationship.

So, let’s talk about three things that may be killing your marriage.

(Don’t worry, we’ll also look at practical ways to deal with these issues and breathe new life into your relationship.)


Here are three things that could be killing your marriage:


1.Unresolved Conflicts and Lingering Bitterness:

We all have disagreements and conflicts in our marriages. But when these issues pile up and go unresolved, bitterness starts to take root. It’s like a slow poison that erodes the trust and love between you and your spouse. Let’s learn to tackle conflicts head-on, address them with love and respect, and be willing to forgive and seek forgiveness.

Remember, bitterness has no place in a thriving marriage.


2.Lack of Quality Communication:

Communication is the lifeblood of any relationship, and marriages are no exception.

When we stop truly listening to our spouse, when we only talk about logistics and forget to connect on a deeper level, the spark starts to fade. Make time for meaningful conversations, create a safe space for open and honest communication, and prioritize active listening.

Let’s revive the art of conversation and reconnect with our partners.


3.Selfishness and Neglect:

Marriage is a partnership built on love, sacrifice, and selflessness. But when selfishness creeps in, it can slowly suffocate the relationship. Putting our own needs and desires above our spouse’s can lead to neglect and emotional distance. Let’s actively choose to serve our spouse, to prioritize their well-being and happiness.

Small acts of kindness, thoughtfulness, and support can go a long way in nurturing a thriving marriage.


Two Questions:

  1. Are there any unresolved conflicts or lingering bitterness in my marriage that I need to address and seek forgiveness for?
  2. How can I improve the quality of communication in my marriage and actively prioritize my spouse’s needs above my own?



Marriage is a beautiful journey filled with ups and downs, but we have the power to make it thrive. Remember, it takes effort and intentional choices, but with God’s help and guidance, we can create a marriage that is filled with love, joy, and lasting commitment. Let’s take the steps today to revive our marriages and build a strong foundation for the future.